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Think rationally

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One of the most annoying things when you are panicking is someone going ‘For goodness sake that’s not going to happen just think rationally!’. It’s annoying but annoying true. We build things in our heads up into a massive storm when really it’s beautifully sunny outside. Because I have had anxiety for a few years now I have been developing thoughts, techniques and strategies to really kick my anxiety in the butt. Now that I am doing a lot more of it for myself I have found that rational thinking really helps me to order my thoughts and fight the negative, made-up thoughts that I have been believing with the plain and simple, black and white, hard facts.

The other day I was getting really worried that I had’t eaten enough fruit and got enough vitamins even though I had. When I look back now I think ugh come on why there you really that worried? But at the time that was a big deal for me. I conquered it by using the plain hard facts and listing them in my head. Sometimes I’ll actually write them down so that I can physically see it written in front of me. Kind of like a pros and cons list but fact and fiction.

Fact:

  • I had eaten 3 pieces of fruit that day ( still a bit low but enough to survive )
  • I had eaten other things that were high in nutrients.
  • Other people don’t even eat 1 piece a day.

Fiction:

  • I’m going to faint beach of it.
  • I’m going to be unwell because of it.
  • I have eaten no where near enough fruit.
  • I have eaten no fruit.

You can see how easily the mind can trick you and how if we believe the fiction then we will inevitably panic and get worried. If we separate the fact from the fiction then we can see that actually ALL of that worry was made up and based upon nothing.

I hope this helped if it did remember to give it a like. Next time you are worrying try and think rationally – it will seriously help you order and sort through your thoughts.

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The low thoughts

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EDIT: I have got over this period and looking back I can see how it change so quickly. I think I wrote this mid/late January.

At the time of me writing this I have hit a really low low. I feel like I’m stuck in this rut and nothing is ever going to get better. I can’t see a light at the end of the tunnel. I hate school and am trying to avoid it although it’s obviously the law. I haven’t spoken to my friends at school much and seem to be isolating myself because I know if I talk I’ll cry and then it will all come spilling out and I don’t want to have to cope with that at the moment. People keep telling me that it will get better and ‘it’s just a rough patch’ although I don’t believe them. I never do when I feel like this. I’m now starting to realise that maybe this is just one of my low points but even so I don’t see it getting any better. Why can’t I just lay in bed all day on Netflix? Why do I have to push myself through those horrible double doors everyday? I know that I’ll feel rubbish for the next 6 and a half hours. But yet I have to get on with it. A little voice in my head says only a few more years left at school. Maybe I should try and embrace it. Although it feels like a long time now people tell me it will go by in a flash so maybe I should pick myself up, brush myself down and get on with the day. But then a little voice in my head says, what if something goes wrong? What if all my worries are confirmed? Well we’ll just have to take a deep breath, think positive and believe that I can acheive this. I am stronger that I think.

Thanks for reading, Worry Warriors,

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The harder the more rewarding

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So I think it’s a well known fact that the harder something is to achieve the more rewarding it is once it’s achieved. I think this is true with anxiety especially when you have a really bad experience and you are able to smash through it. It’s so much more rewarding and satisfying . I also feel that the more work you put in the bigger the reward. Continue reading →

The town experience

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I talked about this a while ago on THIS POST. Basically one day I went into town with my friends and this was an especially good day to blog about because I used A LOT of techniques to calm myself down.

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What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger

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FIRST OF ALL HAPPY NEW YEAR GUYS I HOPE YOU HAVE A GREAT YEAR FILLED WITH ANXIETY-FREE DAYS AND THAT YOU CAN ALL GET STRONGER!

No I’m not talking about the song – well maybe I am? I’m not sure haha. Basically I’m talking about the message. I think this ties into anxiety very nicely. For me one of the only ways I can get back to being my ‘normal’ self is if by trying all the things I’m scared of again which is obviously scary but each time I get a bit stronger. Continue reading →

Reflection

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I think a large part of anxiety is reflecting – really thinking about the positives of conquering something and if there were any bad points what positives can come from it. Today I’m going to reflect on a few scenarios that have happened in the past and learn from them.

The science situation:

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Something that we all need to understand

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We all have some anxiety – it’s normal. If you on’t know why we have it it’s basically from the cave man days when we saw a lion we would sense fear and then run away, fight or flight. But whoever we are we all have anxiety but some have higher levels than others and chances are you reading this have an increased amount…. Continue reading →

It’s OK not to be ready

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Sometimes you do have to say no because you aren’t ready….

I have talked about this topic before but I want to talk about something particular today.

So in the Easter Holidays which feels like ages ago and I wish I was still enjoying doing what I want when I want, playing in the garden (coughs) I’m getting off topic here. Anyway, this Easter I really wanted to dip-dye/ombre my hair. I did it but I faced challenges.

  1. I knew I didn’t want it permanent as I had school in a while
  2. I was scared of allergic reactions
  3. I knew my parents weren’t allergic but it still scared me
  4. I always remember watching ‘Watchdog (a british programme)’ and them taking about the severe reactions
  5. I did have other options

In the end I was too scared to buy the temporary hair dye. I still wasn’t giving up though so I bought hair chalk in the end. I must say I have been enjoying the pinky-purple tips (lol).

The message here is a couple of things:

  1. There is a way around things
  2. You don’t have to jump in the deep end
  3. It’s not avoidance
  4. It’s still progress
  5. I suit pinky-purple ombre (off topic again…)

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Thanks for reading Worry Warriors,

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A mixture of things

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So this week some random stuff happened which I’m going to tell you about.

  1. The dentist. So lucky me had to go to the dentist on Tuesday I had little sleep on the few nights leading up to it but some things you just have to do. I went into the waiting room and felt quite nervous. I got in the actual room and cried. I sat in the chair worrying. But she just poked about and said come back in six months. So I am very happy about that.
  2. IKEA. So this weekend we went to IKEA which meant going on a boat. I was quite nervous but I took a camera and took some photos which kept my mind off of it which was good and I mainly just used distraction techniques and a few months ago I would have been panicking so bad but I managed it with little to no worries.
  3. So the other thing I want to talk to you about is as it’s half term friends are asking to go to a load of really cool places and do a lot of cool things. I would love to but I don’t think I’m ready just yet and I mean it could be fine but I just think it’s one step too far. Don’t worry I’m going to work on it and maybe in a couple of months I will be able to.

Anyway, that’s all I want to talk to you guys about this week, don’t forget to like, comment, follow and share if you enjoyed it. And I will talk to you all you guys next week.

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The return of ‘group’

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Hi so sorry I didn’t post last week I had a cold and I was off school for a couple of days but the good news is I am back and better now. Today I wanted to talk about the return of ‘group’. Now I know what your thinking ‘What is group?’ well group is something I look forward to every week. It is a counselling session that our school has where about ten students get together we go through work sheets and talk about our experiences.

I really like these groups as it builds friendships with the most unlikely people. I am quite shy and don’t really have that much confidence around new people. In these groups I have made the best friends ever with 6th formers and people in my year group. At first I was skeptical, I didn’t think I was going to like it and was even worrying about it.

It’s not until you go into somewhere like that that you realise there are so many people in the same boat as you. The people that walk around your school all have problems. The people that you least expect to be in that group probably are.

Obviously, the students can’t run this on there own we have the loveliest leader who is the school councillor and she personally helps me and makes everyone feel calm and relaxed.

In group this week we wrote these compliment things where you write a compliment on a piece of paper and then fold it over and pass it along and depending on how many people are in the circle will depend on how many compliments you get.

I really hope this helped you out and maybe you might have something like this where you are if you do tell me by leaving a comment below and leave a like if it helped you. Follow, to be told when I make a new post and if there is something you need advice on just go to the contact me page and I will do my best. Maybe even share this with your group leader and your group they might all get something out of it 🙂 And if there is a topic you would like to see me write about comment it down below and I will do my best to help you.

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