Acheive in steps

With anxiety it’s very easy to see each hurdle as a massive elephant sat in the middle of the road. To get past the elephant first we have to drive to it, get out of the car, say hello, get to know it and then finally it will move and we can pass. When we see it as a huge obstacle what we want to do instead is drive around it and that’s trespassing. Ok I got a bit carried away with the elephant analogy but what I’m saying is that if we break it down into steps then we see it as more manageable and therefore we don’t trespass (avoid it).

Let’s take a real life situation and break it down because I doubt that any of you are going to see an elephant sat in the middle of a road and even if you do I bet asking it to move won’t really work.


 

Example:

Worry: I’m really worried about going into science 5th lesson.

Breaking it down: 

  1. Go into school,
  2. Go to all your other lessons that you aren’t worried about,
  3. Maybe go and talk to someone about your worries,
  4. Walk to the door,
  5. Go through the door, (notice how you really have to pick out every single detail)
  6. Walk to your desk,
  7. Sit down,
  8. Open your book,
  9. Get through 10 seconds,
  10. Get through 1 minuet,
  11. Keep breaking it down into minuets and before you know it the lesson will be over.

If we look at it broken down how much more manageable does it seem? Hopefully a lot.By taking any kind of situation 1 minuet at a time we can quickly realise how quickly and by how much our anxiety it going down.

I really hope you enjoyed this post if you did remember to give it a big like and try and practise this even when you don’t feel anxious so you can get into a bit of routine and then it will feel more natural when you are panicking.

Thanks for reading, Worry Warriors,

Win The Worry Wars.

 

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The low thoughts

EDIT: I have got over this period and looking back I can see how it change so quickly. I think I wrote this mid/late January.

At the time of me writing this I have hit a really low low. I feel like I’m stuck in this rut and nothing is ever going to get better. I can’t see a light at the end of the tunnel. I hate school and am trying to avoid it although it’s obviously the law. I haven’t spoken to my friends at school much and seem to be isolating myself because I know if I talk I’ll cry and then it will all come spilling out and I don’t want to have to cope with that at the moment. People keep telling me that it will get better and ‘it’s just a rough patch’ although I don’t believe them. I never do when I feel like this. I’m now starting to realise that maybe this is just one of my low points but even so I don’t see it getting any better. Why can’t I just lay in bed all day on Netflix? Why do I have to push myself through those horrible double doors everyday? I know that I’ll feel rubbish for the next 6 and a half hours. But yet I have to get on with it. A little voice in my head says only a few more years left at school. Maybe I should try and embrace it. Although it feels like a long time now people tell me it will go by in a flash so maybe I should pick myself up, brush myself down and get on with the day. But then a little voice in my head says, what if something goes wrong? What if all my worries are confirmed? Well we’ll just have to take a deep breath, think positive and believe that I can acheive this. I am stronger that I think.

Thanks for reading, Worry Warriors,

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You still get those moments.

So on Tuesday after school I had a bit of a mare.

I had several panic attacks about stuff I hadn’t worried about for ages but  I managed to deal with them and it all turned out ok.

So the first thing that happened was something that bothered me so much I just had to do it. As you may or may not know I’m worried about having allergic reactions to things so peanuts has always been a big goal because they are something that is a common allergen. Sometimes I get to a point when I get so annoyed I just have to do something and this was one of those circumstances. There was a packet of peanuts on the kitchen side and I had been avoiding them like ild fire for a few days but in the end I got so annoyed I just went for it. I knew that I wasn’t allergic but I still couldn’t get the thought out of my head I ate one and sat there waiting. I guess I was waiting for an allergic reaction to the peanuts but yo know what? It never came. I knew it wouldn’t but at the same time my anxiety still gave me that seed of doubt.

I also used a new shampoo the other day and pretty much the same thing happened I was waiting for the reaction and this time I also go the symptoms but nothing actually happened. A few months ago I would have had to go and talk to someone but not now and I’m pleased with that.

So that’s pretty much all I have to say today but if you do take a bit of a step back don’t worry because that happens to all of us! I really hope you enjoyed this if you did remember to give it a thumbs up and follow this blog for more anxiety battling tips and I will see you guys next week.

Thanks for reading, worry warriors,

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Going back to school

So I have to go back to school a week Thursday and I’m nervous. I’m worrying about it but mostly worrying about worrying which sounds absolutely ridiculous and it kind of is but it does’t really seem that way to me.

My fear is just about going in on the first day and panicking a lot and there not being any teachers that I recognise or know. My mind thinks this but it’s frustrating because I know that there will be teachers there that I know and I will worry a bit but not as much as I actually think I will.

I know that I will be with my friends and it will go smoothly but I can’t help worrying, so inside it’s like I’m having a little battle; one side of me knows it will be fine, whereas the other is telling me it will be horrible and the worst day of my life.

I’m going to try not to think about it and this technique has worked in the past. I’m just going to go in there and see what happens I might plan to go and see my mentor first. I also have my counsellor coming in on the first day so that helps a bit.

Anyway, I hope this helps a bit for any of you guys having the back to school blues and please do all the lovely stuff and I will see you guys next week.

Thanks for reading, Worry Warriors,

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It’s OK not to be ready

Sometimes you do have to say no because you aren’t ready….

I have talked about this topic before but I want to talk about something particular today.

So in the Easter Holidays which feels like ages ago and I wish I was still enjoying doing what I want when I want, playing in the garden (coughs) I’m getting off topic here. Anyway, this Easter I really wanted to dip-dye/ombre my hair. I did it but I faced challenges.

  1. I knew I didn’t want it permanent as I had school in a while
  2. I was scared of allergic reactions
  3. I knew my parents weren’t allergic but it still scared me
  4. I always remember watching ‘Watchdog (a british programme)’ and them taking about the severe reactions
  5. I did have other options

In the end I was too scared to buy the temporary hair dye. I still wasn’t giving up though so I bought hair chalk in the end. I must say I have been enjoying the pinky-purple tips (lol).

The message here is a couple of things:

  1. There is a way around things
  2. You don’t have to jump in the deep end
  3. It’s not avoidance
  4. It’s still progress
  5. I suit pinky-purple ombre (off topic again…)

Thanks very much for reading and make sure you are following and are a Worry Warrior because that would be EPIC. Also maybe drop a cheeky like and a five star rating and I will see you soon 🙂

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