Friendships – The bad ones

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So first off I’m really sorry I haven’t update for a while I was busy doing other school stuff – But I know that’s not really and excuse. Anyway, I’m back and there will be more chance for me to write as I have a school holiday at the moment :).

I want to talk about friendships – they can be the best things and worst things especially when you are a teenager and going through a tough time. As I’m still at school there’s a lot of people that I don’t necessarily want to be with but have to. Honestly, that’s just horrible and in some circumstances it makes it even worse having anxiety.

So this was like maybe 6 weeks ago but there was a girl that said I was spreading rumours (which I wasn’t). She’s one I never have really got on with and still don’t. She came up to me with all these people that started shouting at me and then they started talking really loudly like I wasn’t there and being REALLY horrible. I started panicking and it really wasn’t nice but I told the person that helps me at school with my anxiety and she got t sorted which was good.

Thorough-out my whole high-school/secondary school experience, there has been a girl that is really annoying she grabs my stuff and shoves it over the other side of the class room. It has been really getting on my nerves recently and then that causes me to worry and it’s not really very nice. To deal with this one I have literally just been ignoring her – not horribly but just when she throws something instead of asking her to stop I just go get and carry on. This has so far been working she’s getting annoyed that I’m not reacting. I will keep this going and let you know how I get on.

Soon I will do the good things about friendships to counteract these anyway I hope you enjoyed and I will talk to you next week. Also I think that I have decided to call all of you lovely followers Worry Warriors, and don;t forget to follow this blog to become a Worry Warrior. Let me know if you like it by hitting the like button and sharing it and if there are any friendship things you would like me to cover or any other topics for that matter. Anyway….

Thanks for reading Worry Warriors,

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Change

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So sorry I was pretty rubbish at uploading on Sunday I sort of had writers block (rrr)

Anyway so I want to talk about change it happens all the time. Trends change, numbers change and people change. I want to focus on the people changing part. I’m not going to talk about everyone else changing I’m going to talk about YOU changing.

I have a challenge for you by this Sunday I want you to change one thing. Maybe that’s something that you would have never done because you were to scared or maybe that’s something to make you feel happier. It could be huge or tiny I don’t mind but I want you to change one thing.

So for me I have changed what I do after school normally it was just aimlessly browsing the internet but now I do more exercise and more reading saying that I did only start today so you might want to press follow so you don’t miss whether I stick to it or not (a cheeky little prompt there 😉 ).

Anyway whatever you do be sure to tell me either privately at wintheworrywars@gmail.com or comment it on the my achievements page or down below.  Please like, comment, rate and follow it really helps me and if you have any suggestions put it on the you’re in charge page and I will see you next Sunday (hopefully lol)

 

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WIn The Worry Wars

Overcoming anxiety is like a bikeride

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Hi guys so I was going to put up the rest of my Disney trip but my Mum has the other laptop so I’ll put it up asap.

Overcoming anxiety is like a bike ride.

Yeah it is. It’s hard to learn how to control it.

Your younger and you get the bike (the anxiety) .

It takes you a while to figure out how high you need the seat and how to use the bell. (figuring out what your scared of).

You need stabilizers to start off with. (all the people giving you support most of the time)

You are wobbly (you learn the first couple of techniques)

You fall off (this is to represent all the days that you feel like giving up)

You get back up ( your determination reappears)

You can go short distances (you can do it most of the time)

Then…

Your riding miles and miles not even realising how far you have come and that is the last stage, the stage we all will reach if you just believe. I believe in you and you will get there. I bet you don’t even know how much stronger you are and how far you have come.

I hope you enjoyed today’s post, I love you guys you will get there I promise please like comment follow and share with your friends.

Goodnight

Thanks for reading

Win The Worry Wars

Surprise trip diaries #1

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So the Friday just gone was quite a big deal I woke up and did the usual boring stuff. The day was ok and normal it was half term so my Grandparents have been looking after me it has been great. I am not too confident yet with going out with them because that’s hard even with my Mum and Dad but I do go on walks several times around the block with them which is an improvement from before. Anyway that’s not what I want to talk about today if you do want me to talk about the half term the leave a comment but it’s not something on planning on doing.

Anyway, as I am writing this it is actually Friday night, I’m in the back of the car and we have just got off of a ferry. So let’s start from the beginning shall we. My Dad came home with my Grandad and my Grandma had been looking after us all day. My Grandad took my dog I was confused and my Dad said see you in a couple of days. I was like what is happening, then my Dad was like we are going away for the weekend. I didn’t believe him because it is very much like him to joke about stuff like that. Anyway, (I feel like I am saying anyway a lot here) basically I am on the way to Disneyland Paris for the weekend.

Now this will give a lot of different people different levels of anxiety, type of anxiety and different things they are worried about. About a year and a half ago it would have been fully exited, a year ago exited but nervous, six months ago i would have said ‘I can’t’ but today I am mainly exited about going there it’s just the traveling. Right now I am on a really fast motorway and it is dark I can feel my muscles tensing and the nervous thoughts but I am writing this and being distracted. Back to what I was saying before, I’m nervous about the two boats and the driving, the thing I feel most safe about is the driving but that still does give me nerves as where I live it is very small roads and hardly and fast-moving traffic. So I’m not that used to it.

On the first boat that took about 40 mins there was a small bit of rocking which I was very cautious of and I cried a tiny bit but I didn’t really have a panic attack I just felt very scared of the bad possibilities. So I distracted myself with UNO and a new game I got for christmas called Dobble. After that experience i’m a bit worried about the next ferry but I’m just trying to get as exited as possible about Disney. After all that is my favourite place in the word. I can’t wait tonight we are going to a hotel near the boat and then early in the morning we will be getting the ferry.

It’s slightly annoying and reassuring ,at the same time, that I have done this at least seven or eight times before. I’m going to go now and I will update you guys in the morning.

Goodnight x

A mixture of things

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So this week some random stuff happened which I’m going to tell you about.

  1. The dentist. So lucky me had to go to the dentist on Tuesday I had little sleep on the few nights leading up to it but some things you just have to do. I went into the waiting room and felt quite nervous. I got in the actual room and cried. I sat in the chair worrying. But she just poked about and said come back in six months. So I am very happy about that.
  2. IKEA. So this weekend we went to IKEA which meant going on a boat. I was quite nervous but I took a camera and took some photos which kept my mind off of it which was good and I mainly just used distraction techniques and a few months ago I would have been panicking so bad but I managed it with little to no worries.
  3. So the other thing I want to talk to you about is as it’s half term friends are asking to go to a load of really cool places and do a lot of cool things. I would love to but I don’t think I’m ready just yet and I mean it could be fine but I just think it’s one step too far. Don’t worry I’m going to work on it and maybe in a couple of months I will be able to.

Anyway, that’s all I want to talk to you guys about this week, don’t forget to like, comment, follow and share if you enjoyed it. And I will talk to you all you guys next week.

Thanks for reading

Win The Worry Wars

The return of ‘group’

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Hi so sorry I didn’t post last week I had a cold and I was off school for a couple of days but the good news is I am back and better now. Today I wanted to talk about the return of ‘group’. Now I know what your thinking ‘What is group?’ well group is something I look forward to every week. It is a counselling session that our school has where about ten students get together we go through work sheets and talk about our experiences.

I really like these groups as it builds friendships with the most unlikely people. I am quite shy and don’t really have that much confidence around new people. In these groups I have made the best friends ever with 6th formers and people in my year group. At first I was skeptical, I didn’t think I was going to like it and was even worrying about it.

It’s not until you go into somewhere like that that you realise there are so many people in the same boat as you. The people that walk around your school all have problems. The people that you least expect to be in that group probably are.

Obviously, the students can’t run this on there own we have the loveliest leader who is the school councillor and she personally helps me and makes everyone feel calm and relaxed.

In group this week we wrote these compliment things where you write a compliment on a piece of paper and then fold it over and pass it along and depending on how many people are in the circle will depend on how many compliments you get.

I really hope this helped you out and maybe you might have something like this where you are if you do tell me by leaving a comment below and leave a like if it helped you. Follow, to be told when I make a new post and if there is something you need advice on just go to the contact me page and I will do my best. Maybe even share this with your group leader and your group they might all get something out of it 🙂 And if there is a topic you would like to see me write about comment it down below and I will do my best to help you.

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Have a laugh

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So for this weeks post I thought we should do something funny and give you guys a couple of things to look at when you’re feeling down.

  1. Video chat a friend. We all (hopefully) have that one friend that makes us laugh and luckily mine is constantly on skype so I know I can pretty much talk to her where or whenever I need.
  2. Watch some funny videos. Ask anyone that knows me and they will agree if you can’t find me-I’ll be on youtube. The best thing is that there are so many good videos that are funny and one to suit everyone.
  3. Find/ do a hobby that you enjoy. I’m very much into photography and scrapbooking so anything that relaxes you or that you can do is great.
  4. Look up funny quotes on google images. I love the relatable/teenger posts there will always be one to make you smile.
  5. Read a funny book or watch a funny tv programme/movie.

 

I know todays post was quite short and sweet but I hope you guys enjoyed.

Thanks

Win the worry wars.

Turning the bad into good

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So yesterday was very eventful in my house. It was nothing I’ve ever experienced before. It showed me a lot of lessons and made me very aware about others and their struggles.

Please if you see someone or something in need help it.

So my story today is that we rescued 2 stray/neglected dogs. A bit random I know, but this experience has helped me in more ways than one. Let’s just start from the beginning…

I woke up on Saturday morning and my Dad had said he’d found a poorly dog with no tag on the road so we took it inside and fed it as it looked hungry. My Dad and my sister then had to go to a party so left after about half an hour later. Me and my mum weren’t sure what to do so we posted onto the local Facebook lost and found forum. Loads of people go in touch and and said they were trying to get the dog rehomed and that they were being neglected  and had been lost about 12 times in the last month or so :(. My Mum managed to contact some people who were trying to get the dogs rehomed they said that it may have cancer. (thankfully we later found out she didn’t but unfortunately she does have a slight heart murmur.) We contacted the owner and they didn’t seem to care if we had her or not but she did have a friend so we have taken him on as well. So we offered to have them 🙂

We then went straight to the vets and we found out the little girl has quite a bad skin rash but is having medication for it so it should clear up soon. She is also underweight and very unloved. The vet had no more appointments for the boy but he hasn’t got anything majorly wrong with him he’s just unloved and underweight. But he is going tomorrow along with the girl for extra check-ups and and medicines.

Unfortunately we can’t look after them but luckily my grandparents are amazing with dogs and have great care and experience with them so they are taking them on. Don’t worry it won’t be the end of me seeing them I’ll pretty much see them all the time :).

We found out later that the previous owner was just using them to breed. He cared slightly for the boy but pretty much left the girl to almost slowly die :(. They only got about one scoopful of morrisons mixer dog food a day- if that. They are little westies the owner said they were about eight but we don’t really trust him. They had a small bed to share and that was it. The living conditions of the house was shocking I haven’t been round there but my Mum had to pick up the little boy and she didn’t know how a person could live in there let alone a dog.

Since they have been at our house we have fed them chicken and rice (the vet said to) they have had plenty of food and water a lot of love and care .The boy has had a bath but we have to wait for the vet to do an extra check up and find the right medicated shampoo for the girl before we can give her a bath. They have been out for walks and has had a lot of roaming space. They look so much better now than they did this morning and I’m sure there progress will improve rapidly.

Tomorrow they will go to their final home where they will be loved, care for and spoiled rotten ;). They couldn’t go to nicer and loving people my grandparents love dogs to pieces. They haven’t rushed this they have been looking out for two for ages and these have come around at just the right time. I will see them very regularly (probably every day). I will let you guys know how they are doing if you would like.

This has taught me things I never thought I’d know. Please if you see a dog on the street please call the number on the tag if they have one, give them some food and water and make sure the home is a good home if you think it’s really unsuitable please call a local animal shelter because if you don’t make that one small phone call at least one beautiful animal could die. We caught these 2 just in time or I don’t really want to think what would have happened if we hadn’t.

Please help others.

Today we turned 2 poor neglected dogs into 2 loved and cared for healthy dogs.

I’d just like to say that this was quite a scary thing to do but I have enjoyed It and I hope all the dogs and cats will one day find suitable homes and all people will as well.

 

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Win The Worry Wars

 

Help someone else

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So my slogan if you want to call it that is,” help stop the world worrying”. Basically I want to help other people understand, cope with and beat anxiety so that we can all be happier.

I bet you reading this now has had at least one person help you out with your anxiety. Let’s give something back that actually will help you in return. Next time you see someone standing alone, say hello. Next time you see someone crying, ask what’s wrong. If you know someone with anxiety help them out.

The feeling of you doing good for others will help you feel more happy. You may even want to help out a charity or another good cause.

Why don’t you try helping out the person that’s helped you?

All of this stuff is mood boosters and even distractions for your anxiety.

I hope this has helped. Why not even try telling them about this website (lol). Don’t forget to rate, follow and check out the rest of the site .

Thanks for reading

Win The Worry Wars

Read this when your alone with anxiety

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First off happy new year guys! I hope this year will be better to you than last especially for anxiety. 🙂

I found this online (I have forgotten where) and thought maybe you could use this when your alone and you feel anxious. Also it may be a good thing to say to someone you know if they’re very anxious. I have done it in a document so you can print it out if you need to but I have also written it down here incase you have any trouble opening the document. Note: I did adjust some words slightly to make it better.

Breathe. You’re going to be okay. Breathe, and remember that you’ve been in this place before. You’ve been this uncomfortable and anxious and scared and you’ve lived. Breathe, and know you can survive this. These feelings can’t break you. They’re painful and deliberating, but you can sit with them and eventually they will pass. Maybe not immediately, but some time soon, they are going to fade and when they do you’ll look back on this moment and laugh for having doubted your resilience.I know it feels unbearable right now, but keep breathing again and again. This will pass. I promise it will pass. xx

AS A WORD DOCUMENT

I hope you guys enjoyed todays post and you could relate to it. Maybe it has helped just now or you need to save it to help next time. Thanks so much for reading I truly love you guys xx

Thanks,

Win The Worry Wars